The weighing of decisions can feel like a great responsibility and it can seem impossible to overlook, at times, that our actions and choices are linked to outcomes and consequences. For the most part, at any given moment a chance may present itself calling for us to make one pivotal course of action.
There a trillions of examples. There are big moment examples and ones that appear less crutial. An opportunity to give our last cash dollar to someone who is asking for change - or not, may seem to be on a different tier than chosing to do something when you witness abuse or assult - or chosing to do nothing about it.
Sometimes we may think we will behave in a way that we dont end up acting. Sometimes we miss an opportunity that in our core we regret passing up. So what does that mean? Does that make us selfish, terrible people? Terrible? Unlikely. Selfish? Possibly.
When we decided that we have choice to make. We can wait for the next person after we walk through a swinging door - or not. We can throw our trash in a garbage and not cement - or we can not. We can practice good self care regularly - or we cannot.
Lately I've realized that these decisions are tests and also indicators to show us where we are and who we are. If something doesnt sit right after the fact- we can seek redemption. Nothing and no one is demanding we choose option B over option A. And if they are and thats not who you choose to become, change the influences around you. Not even one of us will ever be "perfect". It's humanly impossible. But we have choices evey day that do bring huge results- will they be good or will they be negative?